Sunday, November 27, 2011


It’s been a rough couple of weeks for the Tygielski family.

A presumed stomach bug turned into an inflamed appendix that had to be removed. While in the hospital both kids came down with severe colds and had to stay home from day care. They in turn gave my wife a double whammy cold.

We were miserable.

The parents had no energy, patience or tolerance.

The kids were ornery, whiney and impatient.

Not a good combination.

To put it lightly…this nuclear family hit real low point.

The parents were on edge. Their actions weren’t nearly the storybook childrearing plans we had dreamed of. The children reacted in kind putting us in this downward spiral where I can see why many have asked…”Can we send them back?”

Perspective – We realized this was a lose/lose situation. We weren’t setting the example we wanted for our children. Our approach obviously wasn’t working. We talked through it. We needed to change our perspective and approach.

The next day things went smoother. Was this because of our Attitude to the situation, our conviction to set a better example? Was it because we were feeling better and had more patience? Was it because the kids were feeling better?

It was probably a combination of all of the above. The emotion, testing the limits, setting discipline etc ist still a roller coaster but the culmination of our efforts hit a high today where mini dragon girl transformed into our little princes for a whole day.

No incidents, no tantrums, no time outs.

Instead, sharing, caring and helpfulness.

A moment when we are proud to say we are her parents.

We’ll keep working and doing our best and hope that we can minimize how often mini dragon girl and whiney siren show up.

Now that I am on the mend, I hope to feed some new stories and pictures into the blog over the next few weeks.